Why You Don’t Feel Loved (even when you are) - Sonja Lyubomirsky - #1115

In this episode, host and psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky delves into the concept of happiness and the common factors that contribute to it. With over 36 years of research, she shares insights from her work on happiness interventions, suggesting that practices like gratitude, kindness, and social connections are vital in making people feel loved and connected. Lyubomirsky emphasizes that humans thrive on connections, which have evolutionary roots and contribute significantly to our overall happiness.

She explores the difference between feeling loved and admired, arguing that love hinges on being known and understood by others. Through anecdotes and examples, she illustrates how loneliness can manifest from feeling unloved, asserting that being appreciated and valued is crucial.

Towards the latter part of the conversation, they explore actionable tips for fostering relationships. Lyubomirsky highlights the importance of curiosity and sharing in communications. Subscribers are encouraged to engage actively in their conversations and reflect on not only what they receive in relationships but what they offer as well. The discussion concludes with practical advice for listeners, urging them to cultivate a mindset of connection and openness to enhance their happiness.